The Art of Giving

 

Generosity and charitable deeds are highly regarded in society and is usually practiced by those who have towards those who are less fortunate. However, I did not realize there is etiquette in giving. In the verses in Al-Baqarah (Al Quran: 2: 261-274) God guides us on how to give.

We are repeatedly told not to remind the recipients of our benevolence or use hurtful words. Look at the mercy of God, He invokes us to consider the feelings of those who are forced to receive from us. Do not make it worse for them by highlighting their lot in life but understand that it is our privilege to be able to give. Thus, embrace every individual who is going through a tough time, treat them with kindness and give what you can. It could be a monetary gift, food, knowledge or even a kind word. In fact, God says a kind word and forgiveness is better than a charitable deed followed by hurtful words. He also warns that there is no reward for those who remind of their charitable deeds and use hurtful words. It is an apt reminder for me , as I do remind my children of things that I do for them when I should do it out of generosity and view it as my privilege to be a mother and only seek God’s reward. And what a reward that He promises, of gardens , streams and produce!

You are also to give of the good things that you have and not things that you would not accept yourself with your eyes closed! We really should use this evaluation method when giving away used clothes, would you want to receive tattered clothes? God also warns us that Satan would threaten us with poverty and that may lead us to become stingy and not wanting to share of our bounty as we become afraid of losing what we have. However, God promises abundance, and that He multiplies one goodness with 700, thus what an investment it is to give in God’s way.

Although it is fine to give charity openly but giving in secret is better and it can even be used to wipe away sins. I feel giving openly does encourage others to give as well, however, giving in secret preserves the dignity of those who are too shy to ask. God actually encourages us to seek these people who need help as they do not beg.

Finally, giving charity benefits your soul, if you give it for God’s sake and not for self-glorification. It does give you a sense of euphoria and you feel good about yourself. Volunteering at charity organizations or even just helping someone with groceries can help combat depression that is prevalent in these times.

When you plan to give the next time do follow the etiquette in giving, for there is art in giving!